(I wrote this for a friend who wanted a manly analogy about how words can wound.) In the Army, when soldiers are trained on at the range, they are told fire their weapons at the chest (heart) or head (mind). These are “kill” shots. I was thinking about how the power of life and death are in our tongue. I want to suggest that “You” statements have such an impact on our heart and minds that they can be kill shots. For example, “You are stupid!” and “You are a liar” are two of these. These shots assassinate the identity of who God created us to be. There is a way for rebuke that can correct without bringing death. Instead of using the above sentences, one could say, “That was a very unwise decision/action” or “Those words are untrue/lies.”
Fortunately, the power of life is also in the tongue. If we want to bless someone, using “you” statements will hit the core of their being. “You are beautiful” or “You are an amazing man of integrity” affirm the person’s worth and value the person as God’s treasured creation. So I challenge you to be good stewards of all your words using them for blessing and not cursing.